If you need to win love back because the other person couldn’t trust you anymore, you will have to proceed slowly. If you messed up and fooled around with someone else, you have to prove that you can be loyal again.
First, you must be certain that you want your ex back. What is going to keep you from straying again? Could it be that the reason you fooled around is because you weren’t 100 percent sure you wanted your ex? If this is the case, are you now sure that you want the relationship to go forward?
If you are sure, then you need to apologize. Don’t think that this will get you very far when it comes to win love back, but it is a necessary first step.
Then, you must give your ex time to heal. Don’t push him or her to resolve the situation. During this time, you don’t want to play any head games that might give your ex the feeling that you can’t be trusted. You probably shouldn’t date other people during this time. You should be humble.
Be a great friend to her. Do the things that made her fall in love with you in the first place. If she still has feelings for you, being a good friend can help her pave over the infidelity.
But there are reasons besides cheating that a person dumps their lover. For instance, they may be bored with the relationship. In this case, if you want to win love back, you have to spice things up.
When your ex was first attracted to you, you were probably not complacent in the dating game. You planned each date carefully, dressed up for the events, and brought little gifts to him or her from time to time. As the relationship developed, you may have gotten sloppy about it.
If you think the reason you are now in the position where you need to win love back is that you let the relationship get boring, try spicing things up. If you meet up again "just as friends" do something different and exciting. Meet at a wine bar instead of a pool hall. Go out for fondue or other "interesting" food. Go to a concert with music that she likes. Don’t just sit around the house watching football or American Idol all of the time.
If your ex is bored with you, win love back by becoming more interesting in your personal life as well. Take a course or join up with an interesting group. Start skydiving. Show your ex that you can be a lot of fun.
The final reason that I’m going to discuss here about why a break up happens is that you were just "too into" your ex. He or she didn’t have any room to breathe. They may still like you. Heck, they may still love you, but they didn’t find any room for themselves in the relationship.
If this is the case, you have to give your ex some space. The worst thing you can do is send them 100 text messages a day or call crying at 3:00 a.m. asking why the break up happened. You win love back by backing off. When you see your ex, be casual. Don’t be needy.
There are, of course, many other reasons why your ex could have broken up with you. When you analyze why the break up happened, you can use the space thereafter to win love back by making the necessary changes.
You won’t win love back by continuing in your old habits. But you should know that getting back together is possible. You can win love back.
Check out this short video for free advise.
Nugget: What's different stands out. In a world of text messages, IMs and email...sending a HANDWRITTEN letter to your ex is MUCH more emotional and effective than sending 4 screens full of text message.
What it means: One of the most powerful things you can do to create a vacuum and have your ex possible pursue you...is to AGREE with a break up in a hand written note.
BE CAREFUL! What you say in the note and how you say it can have positive or negative effects. For an outline of what to put in your note watch the video at The Magic of Making Up
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